few weeks ago, I had to talk (or rather hear) to a patient that we were seeing. With an amazing coolness, said: " doctors and evicted me." In addition, continued his story with " in the education of my son I'm going to get. If my mom wants me to go to this or that school, or behave in such a way at home, I will not repair." Others take the death of a family nearby is difficult. I guess it take one's own death even more so. Thinking about death is complex, and something that actually ocurridrá, an unavoidable commitment. The fear of death comes from fear of the unknown, what will happen after d and, well, I guess that depends on the beliefs of each person, if you believe in reincarnation, the move to another way of life, eternal life, in that rag we call soul, spirit ... Death is usually marked by significant biological changes, sometimes (unfortunately ) sooner rather than later. Also, death is socially rejected, as attentive to the material world. Culturally we are motivated to devote less time to death, that dying hurts productivity, sadness must be resolved as soon as possible, since the world "real " requires the bodies and clean minds of those who work for growth. The show must go on in the circus of life.
When we know that death touches our door, we describe 5 stages, which would be the denial , serving as normal defense mechanism, as a damping effect. Denial allows us a truce between the psyche and reality. Then would come the wrath , where the person finally accepts reality and rebel against it. Invade feelings of injustice, low self-esteem, to rebel against God, against doctors, against family. After that comes a kind of pact or negotiation, which already assumes the condition, but it appears an attempt to negotiate the time, it attempts to make a deal. People in these circumstances become regressive, asking for time in exchange for good behavior. The vast majority of such pacts are secret and only those who make them are unaware of it. When we became aware of the above fails, the depression , before the development of the disease that causes severe disability, pain or continuous hospitalization, and drag from situations like financial problems, feelings of worthlessness. And finally appears acceptance, at this stage is reached very weak, tired and in a sense, emotionally numb. In their struggle to rid the world and people prefer to be alone. At this stage the patient has begun to die, to give up their lives in peace and harmony, at this stage there is neither happiness nor sorrow, just peace, the pain is in those around the sick, he only want the silence to end his days with a feeling of peace with itself and the world. These stages are not necessarily all, a person can die with half the world angry, or not accepting his condition ever.
Death is a hard fact, so much as to who will live and for those around him. Understand death as part of life is vital. Thinking about our death may cause us anguish, fear or terror. Or rather, do not think, we avoid not to complicate the issue further. Thoughts of death or face death (or the self) is a great opportunity for valuing life, things we like to do, and enjoy it in all its glory.
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